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> Talk to everyone. I mean _EVERYONE_.

This.

You must get good at "small talk." You must learn to actually enjoy small talk. There is no other way.

Almost everyone I know who has a hard time meeting people hates small talk. That's a problem.

If you're desperate, get a job running a cash register part time. It's the best place to practice small talk, and you'll learn to enjoy it because it makes the day go by faster.



And if you're a terribly shy person (and I know a number of geeks who are), start with something as simple as talking to the person at a checkout register or the waitperson. When they ask how you are, give a short summary, then ask them how they are doing. Try to see it as a real question rather than a greeting. Do this regularly and it will get easier and more natural.


This. Not only for meeting life partners, but also friends, business contacts, and investors.




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